Finally after two years in a far away country and entering the next phase of my life, the Roadster and I are finally coming home.. Back to Singapore, where we met, where we lived and where we grew up.. Being away from home, I have learnt to appreciate my family, my friends and most of all, all the experiences and memories that helped shape who I am today... But an event recently made me confident and appreciative of my own judgement and decision I made when I was younger....

Recently of late, one of my ex, out of the blue, added me on facebook. Of course, being me, out of goodwill and having no bad feelings towards him, added him and added him to my messenger when he requested to speak to me.. However as the normal formality of "how are you" and "what are you doing now?" pass, and after informing him I am now married and have been with the Roadster for over 7 years before we got married, he asked a question that made me wonder what his intention and motives were.. I mean even though technically when I got together with The Roadster, i was, in status-wise still attached to my ex, but at that point of time, we really didn't have a real relationship.. He only looks for me when he wants to satisfy his needs, when he needs me to finance his lifestyle or pleasures, and when it was done, it was if I didn't exist in his life.. There was no affection shown at all.. we don't even hold hands nor walk side by side or sit next to each other.. So it was 3 months after being with the Roadster that I told him that I don't need him in my life.. And he then suddenly said that he wanted to commit to the relationship.. To which I said that i didn't need a burden like him..

Anyway, he started questioning me abouty sex life and whether I still use aids.. And I was like that it was not neccessary to ask such a question.. His reply was like it was not as if we were doing it.. But still one wouldn't ask such a question.. He continued to ask that question even after I repeatedly told him that there was no need to ask such a question as I am married. He assumed that I was pissed off with him. But all I was trying to do if find out his intentions.. He is attached and 34 and yet he was trying something that makes me question his morals and his maturity.. As after that, he deleted me from his friends list, and automatically deleted himself from my friends list.. When I should be the one to do
so.. This showed that I did make the right decision then in ridding him from my life.. I mean I have two exs in my friends list in facebook.. One from when I was 15, the other was from when I was 17.. Both of which I still are friends with, who never brought our past relationship and intimate details up.. I really do wonder why this particular ex of mine behaves this way... I think I made the right decision to be with the Roadster and be his wife..

-Aikiko Rei

Location:Links Side,Enfield,United Kingdom